A Reflection On My Life
My road to motherhood was a challenging yet beautiful journey. It required a lot of sacrifice and unconditional love. Was it easy? Definitely not! But, was it worth it? Only every single moment of it! If I emphasize how it could possibly be the most important job in the world that anyone can undertake, it would probably pressure some people to rethink this path. But I tell you, the moment I became a mother was the moment my whole world was put into perspective and everything else became clear. I instantly became less self-centered and I was not the most important person in my world anymore – my child was. Motherhood grounded me and gave me the opportunity to grow as an individual.
We all do the best we can, the best way we know how.
I am not saying that I have it all together because I don’t. There’s no such thing as the perfect mother; we all do the best we can the best way we know how. A spiritual teacher wrote,“the moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” – I couldn’t agree more.
Before my eldest son was born, I never cooked a day in my life. When he finally came, I had to become a chef. At first, I didn’t know what I was doing, but through time, I adopted the skill. As an individual, this helped me gain more confidence. My younger self would never have imagined that this would be something I would do. During my second pregnancy, I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I quickly became more interested in health and fitness. I had to re-evaluate my lifestyle if I were to be responsible for two human beings. Without warning, you find yourself thinking, “Hey! Now there are two of them depending on me for their bright future!” So, I want to increase my chances of being around to create wonderful memories with them. I workout not because I want to lose weight, but because I want to be healthy – I want to live to witness my children grow; I eat healthy not because I’m on a diet, but because I want to take care of myself, so that my children will have their mother for as long as I am able. Don’t get me wrong, all of this started because of my children but I’m moving forward for me.
Sometimes as mothers we tend to get lost in our children’s lives that we forget about ourselves, which is the one thing that we should never do. We need to find our motivation through our children, but stay intrinsically inspired. Because of this new mindset, I am now an advocate for health, wellness and fitness. I hope to inspire and empower other women on this journey. My younger self again would never have imagined that this is something I would do.
Sometimes as mothers we tend to get lost in our children’s lives that we forget about ourselves, which is the one thing that we should never do.
Besides being a chef and a fitness enthusiast, I’ve become so much more – among them include becoming a teacher, a nurse, a chauffeur, a judge, a stylist, a cheerleader, a coach, a referee, and the list goes on. But of all the things I love becoming the most is a role model because my children may forget what I tell them, but they will always remember my actions. I strongly believe that as a mother, I need to have a strong hold on my attitude, my way of life, my passion and my individuality to be the role model I want to be for my children. I continually remind myself that I am the root and core of my children – I am the one that can set the foundation that their lives will be based on.
There is no one perfect way to be a mother, but there are so many ways to be the best one for your children. As Oprah Winfrey said, “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother,” because being a mother is a behavior and a reflection on our own lives.
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